Do you ever have so much on your proverbial plate that if one more thing gets added, you just might lose your sh*t? If you’re a mother, that’s probably at least once a day. And that one more thing is usually in the form of a sweet little voice (or multiple) saying, “Mommy.” A THOUSAND times a day, “Mommy” “Mommy” “Mommy” “Mommy” “Mommy” “Mommy” .. you get the point.
When I was working full-time I think this made me lose my sh*t at least three times a day. And I’m embarrassed to say I reacted by snapping at them. I mean for crying out loud, haven’t you learned to cook your own meals, wash your own clothes and google your questions yet? Oh wait, no. Because you’re 5.
And every time I would snap at them I would feel like a super jerk. Especially when my exasperated “WHAT!!!?” was followed by, “I colored a picture for you.” (face palm) Talk about a mom fail.
So one day I decided that every single time my children said “Mommy” to get my attention I would answer with two simple words.
Those words were, “Yes, love?” Sometimes it took me a second. Sometimes I did it through slightly gritted teeth. But I did it. Every. Time.
And you know what? It worked. And it got easier. And there was much less snapping. Because every time I said “Yes, love” I was reminded that they are the greatest loves of my life. And they are precious little things who are overwhelmed too, trying to figure out this big world with me as their guide.
I was telling this story to two co-workers one day and I teared up. I think because I was ashamed that I snapped at my kids just for saying my name. And because I was overwhelmed with love for them (my kids, not my co-workers 😉 ).
I still use this trick to this day, years later. Even though life has changed so much for us and I no longer work full-time, I still get frustrated. As moms and as women we always pile on more tasks and projects and responsibilities to fill up that proverbial plate.
But using the two simple words still helps keep me grounded and appreciate those sweet little voices.2 Simple Words That Made Me A Nicer MomClick To Tweet
Do you use tricks to keep your cool with your kids? I’d love to read about it in the comments below.
Chelsea Padgett says
This is so great! I try to use love themed words to remind me who I’m talking to. I want them to know I will listen when they talk, that I’m never “busy”, and what they say REALLY MATTERS!
Thank you! Yes, I totally agree. It’s so important, even when it’s hard.
I love this idea! I am totally trying this tomorrow! Not only does it make you feel more calm and loving, it makes you sound like a sweet loving mama (instead of a monster yelling at your kids!!) 😀
Thanks so much. Yes, I felt like much less of a monster mom when I started this. Then when it became second nature it felt even better. Good luck!
Great read! I’ve been trying to use kind loving words with my almost 4 year old. It’s tough sometimes but using kind words allows me to take a step back and remember she’s little and she’s only little for so long. A lot less guilt this way.
Good for your mama! It can be so hard. They test boundaries so much at that age. Anything that helps me be more calm with my kids is so helpful.
I love this !!
Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much. That means a lot to me. It was a personal story to write. And it’s not easy to admit you need to change. But I hoped one small thing I was able to do would help others.
Rick Scholl says
Loved your story about the two words that made you a better mom!
Thank you so much. I’m so glad it’s resonating with some readers.